The Problem
Most churches seem not to have good singles groups nowadays. There are a lot of churches, and a lot of people, buy why aren't there that many singles groups? I've got my suspicions, but I don't know for sure. The churches I have been to seem to treat singles as an afterthought. Often the singles group is formed as the last group, or the last class, of the church. But why is that a problem?
There are a lot of people in the United States, and a lot of churches to go around. But according to the Church of Christ website, over 40% of the US population is single for one reason or another. So while there are a lot of churches, they are geared for only 60% of the US population. That tends to leave a lot of people out.
Who Am I?
My name is Joe. I am 30 years old, single and a Christian. I have been working as a software engineer for the last seven years. I started actively looking for a church in early 2008 and found one, but without a singles group. The singles group has become especially important to me in the last six months, so I have started looking for a church that has a good, strong singles group with people about my age.
Why Am I Looking?
Simple. I got tired of being alone. In 2003 I moved from my hometown in West Texas to the DFW metroplex. I had a job and found an apartment, and for the next several years I thoroughly enjoyed the single life. Eventually, that changed.
It was a combination of things that led up to my decision to look. First, I lost a lot of weight, and am still loosing a lot. Second, I changed jobs and bought a house. But third, I got to the point where I realized something was missing from my life.
Two somethings, really: a church that wanted to culture relationships with people, and the person I am going to (hopefully) spend the rest of my life with. It seemed to me that the best place for one Christian to meet another would be at church in a singles group, so I started my search for a new church with a singles group where I have the chance to meet my wife. Will I? I don't know, but I have to try.
The Project
The only way to find a church with a singles group is to go and visit. I'll be visiting a lot of churches, no doubt some with singles groups and some without. I'll keep this page updated with my observations, my thoughts, and my experiences along the journey. I hope this won't turn into a Christian soap opera, and I'll try to keep any drama to a minimum. Wish my luck on this new embarkation!
Try Northwest Bible Church on Northwest Highway in Dallas. My son found a great singles group there (and five years later the wonderful woman who is now his wife started going there, too).
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